Dec 11, 2012

Actual Sewing Content

DId I give an update on the interview?  No?  Very well then.

I got the job!!!

I start in April, when the spring quarter begins.  I'll be teaching basic sewing, as well as an intermediate or special topics class.  RIght now I'm thinking of doing a series where we work through my (current) favorite sewing book, Gertie's New Book for Better Sewing: A Modern Guide to Couture-Style Sewing Using Basic Vintage Techniques
.  It's got some awesome patterns an great info about vintage sewing and fitting.

In honor of that, I'm going to try repurposing things.  Not upcycling, but reusing.  I'm starting with sheets.  Sheets are an awesome source of fabric.  They're nice and big, and usually have already been washed a million times, which means shrunk as much as possible.  They're generally 100% cotton.  Best of all, you can get them for a couple bucks at Goodwill!  I got this one today, which will become a shirt dress.

I picked up another vintagey looking floral one, too, as well as a white one to do a fitting muslin in.  

Now if you do a search for "dress made from sheet" you'll find some.... creative things.  Usually not well done.  People see it and think SHEET.  SQUARE.  CANNOT CUT.  But it's just fabric.  It was cheaper than anything you can get at a fabric store, so USE IT!  If you mess it up, you're only out a few bucks.  

Tomorrow I need to go get some tracing paper and materials to cut out the pattern without dorking up the sheets that came with the book.  No, I don't have any idea where mine are.  I blame the movers.  

Dec 7, 2012

Faith in humanity- RESTORED

This time of year always makes me a little grumpy.  People are pushy, there's a "war on Christmas" that doesn't exist, my beliefs get marginalized, and there's that whole coming up with money for presents.


But today.....  today my faith in humanity has been restored.  Why?  SOmeone who doesn't know Maddie sent her one of the best gifts she's ever gotten.

As a lot of you know, Maddie is a HUGE comic book geek.  HUGE.  She has the Marvel and DC encyclopedias memorized.  She can tell you whatever you want to know about the X-Men.  But her FAVORITE is the Green Lantern.  So much so that when the movie came out, we all went opening night, with her in her GL shirt, mask and ring.

She also has a thing about writing to comic book writers.  She's written a bunch of letters to Stan Lee, but nothing has been returned.  About a month or so ago, she wrote to Geoff Johns, the guy who does the Green Lantern comics.  The letter had an idea or two of what she'd like to see in the comic and she sent a picture she drew of one of the characters.

Fast forward to today.  UPS rings the bell and hands me a box from Diamond Comics.  I take it, see it's addressed to Maddie and open it up, thinking it's a Christmas gift from her uncle or one of my good friends who know she loves comics (and love them, too!).  Inside I see a photocopied letter, a shirt, and some Green Lantern action figures.  Huh?  Who the heck sent that?

Then it clicks.  That's her letter, the one she sent to Geoff Johns.  I look at the address and it's from Warner Brothers in Burbank.  It REALLY clicks- GEOFF JOHNS GOT HER LETTER.  THIS BOX IS FROM HIM.  Or at least from someone on his staff thoughtful enough to see a little girl's letter and send her some truly awesome swag.

But it gets better.  I post on Facebook and a friend of mine tells me he knows someone who knows Geoff's email address.  He works his magic and HOLY CARP- when Maddie writes her thank you note (which she will!), it will go directly to Himself.  Well, directly via two friends, but STILL!

By the time this is settled Maddie get home.  We tell her she has a package, and she opens it up  and OMG.  I have never seen a kid so excited!  She was seriously ready to cry.  Then I told her about the email and that was the end.  :D

This whole thing has really restored my faith in humanity.  Maddie writes just because she loves the stories, not for any reward.  The fact that someone in that office recognized a little girl, and thought enough of her letter and her time to send her something is awesome.  They deserve a huge karma boost.  As for Goeff, well, a lot of my comic geek friends say this has redeemed what he did to the Justice League.  Can't quite forgive the Superman debacle, though.  ;)

And here's a picture of Maddie with her loot:
Please to ignore the boxes in the background and the super messy table.  It's been a busy week!

Also, if anyone wants to tweet to Geoff Johns about his awesomness, his handle is @geoffjohns.  I already did.

Dec 1, 2012

Well this explains a lot.....

I followed a link to a blog article today that clears a lot of things up for me about my life in late 2006, all of 2007, half of 2008 and a few blips all the way into 2011.  For those just joining the show, during his first major manic phase, Justin had a brief affair.  When he came down from the mania, he realized what he was doing and broke it off.  Except the woman wouldn't allow it, and continued to lie and do anything she could to keep him in contact with her, up to and including a fake pregnancy.  She told enough lies that he was busted by the Air Force, and continued to tell lie after lie after lie, all the while harassing my family.  During that time period the tires on my car were slashed twice.  I was answering my doorbell to find no one there, phone calls where people hung up (and these happened ONLY during this time period).  Friends were questioned as to where my husband was.  It got so bad, my husband was afraid to leave the house, in the event she cornered him somewhere (she lived the next street over).  How do we know this?  She was stupid enough to email him and tell him she lied and did some of these things.  We have phone records of her calls.  I have a stack of information an inch and half thick.  The emails from her continued until 2010/2011, after we'd moved across the ocean.

But this is 2012.  This all happened years ago.  Why am I rehashing it now?  An internet friend is having a very difficult time with her soon-to-be-ex-husband.  Harassment, lies, even physical violence.  Now Justin's stalker wasn't nearly to the level of this guy, thank goodness.  But for a very long time, I've been wondering how someone who claimed to love someone, as she claimed to love Justin, could do so many things to hurt them and the people they love.  She was horrible.  She gave no fucks about me, no fucks about my children, no fucks about anyone but herself.  She expected everyone to give a fuck about her, though.  The cognitive dissonance was astounding.  

Then someone posted the link to this blog post by a psychologist, The Vindictive Narcissist.  A lightbulb clicked.  This is her.  This is the woman who tried desperately to destroy my family.  This paragraph, in particular, stood out to me:

"Unlike you and me, however, he can’t tolerate such painful humiliation, not even for a second, and revenge fantasies are not enough. He experiences the continuing reality of a woman who rejected him as a continual threat, a constant assault upon his ideal self-image; as a result, his defenses remain on continual alert against it. At the least provocation — that is, whenever shame threatens to emerge — he will viciously strike out, like a snake assaulting its prey."

This was the answer I needed.  You see, she was trying to build a reputation as a Christian singer.  She had gone to a CHristian college, sang at her church, and was all SOOOOOPERCHRISTIANJESUSFUCKYEAH!!

Small problem- GOOD Christian women don't have affairs while their husband is deployed to Iraq.  GOOD Christian women don't try to convince another man to leave his family.  GOOD Christian women are victims of the evil men, who make them do these things.  There's also the fact the she sees herself as beautiful and talented and wanted by everyone.  The very thought that she might not be these things was inconceivable for her.  Hence the lies.  The stalking.  The harassment.  Every time she emailed or called, Justin reported it to his command, who called her husband and told him to have her knock it off.  Which led to another email.  Which led to Justin telling his command.  Wash, rinse, repeat, ad nauseum.  She somehow managed to convince her husband of it, which just goes to prove how smart he isn't.  To this day, I bet if you asked her, she'd tell she never did any of that, that she was the victim, that she's a Good Christian (TM) who was soooooo injured.  

You may also ask, why do you keep the records?  I keep them because they're proof.  I don't believe for one second that she will keep herself out of our lives forever.  She'll have something happen, another break, another something, and she'll lash out and we'll be the target.  Or she'll do something similar to someone else.  Because she can't help herself.  

"Since such people have almost no interest in or capacity for change, the best you can do is stay clear of them, just the way you’d avoid a snake if it happened to cross your path."

And that's what we're doing.  She's a snake.  A charming, fakely empathetic snake.  And beyond keeping my family out of her path, I have no fucks to give about her.  This blog post was that lightbulb that nothing I or Justin did would have stopped her from being as hurtful as possible.  She tried to drive us apart, not knowing that's an almost impossible task.  And we're still together, stronger than ever, and even more importantly, happy.

(And no, I'm not naming her here.  I've talked about her before.  If you're that interested, you'll figure it out.)